One of my greatest fears is growing old Alone!!l

I am a relationship person. I love the idea of Love, I love being in Love and the hopeless romantic in me would love to be in relationship & one day get married again but the way my life is set up, I’m not going to accept the BS just to say, “I’m in a relationship or I’m married”. The reality is, a lot of us women are accepting men who have not “Chosen” us. We know in our heart that he is not the one, we know he is just leading us on, we know that we’re just an occasionally rendezvous, but we settle for the scraps because we don’t think we deserve or will be blessed with anyone better. In our hearts we truly love them & in some cases they love us, just not enough to commit. They feed us just enough to keep us holding on to the hope that one day we will win the prize, but what prize are we winning??

Trust me, I know how difficult it is to be in unhealthy relationship, to love someone with all your heart but deep down you know your settling. I was married for 31 years, then after my divorce I was in a on-off relationship for almost 4 years. See, one of my greatest attributes & greatest flaw is LOVE & LOYALTY!! When I Love, I Love without limits. I will ride with you & for you until the wheels fall off. I will give a person 1001 chances because I Love hard & I’m Loyal to those I love, which is often a setup for heart break! So I know what it means to Love someone, that you know is not loving you the same.

But then comes that ah-ha moment. That moment when the light bulb comes on & you realize the reality of your situation. Ladies, Queens, My Sisters….we must understand that We Are The Prize, We Are The Good Thing, We Bring The Favor & We Are Wives!! Proverbs 18:22, states, “He who finds a Wife finds a Good Thing, And obtains Favor from the Lord.” We must stop preforming “wifely” acts & doing “wifely” duties with no “Wifely Benefits”! On my “Road To Freedom”, I realized that I had to take responsibility for My Life. For who I allow into my life & what I allow to occur in my life. If I want God to bless me with a husband, I have to start “being” a wife in my mind & in my heart. I had to separate & sanctity myself so I could start preparing my Mind, Heart, Body & Finances to receive the man that’s going to find me and I had to painfully release myself from anyone that was blocking the way.

Listen Ladies, if we keep giving pieces of ourselves to the Men that we “think” are the one, eventually we won’t have anything left for the MAN who “is” the one. We must stop “being” Long-term Girlfriends, Forever Fiancees, Permanente Companion & Friends / Roommates With Benefits. Some people say a marriage certificate is just a piece of paper but that piece of paper carries a lot of weight.

I’ve said this before & I’m saying it again. God allows people in our lives for a REASON, a SEASON or a LIFETIME! Our problem is, we get the reason & seasonal people confused with the Lifetime People so we must Pray & ask God to give us Discernment and Self Discipline and while we’re waiting be sure to Guard Our Heart, Cover Our Mind & Protect Our Body!!!